Tricky Memory

Memory is one of the most essential aspects of being human. Some of these memories are ingrained in our genes and passed on to us. They assist us in the same manner that our daily survival is dependent on experiences.

When we are traumatized, our brain pushes these memories away, where they cannot be accessed. We don't want to linger on the past and move forward with our lives.

However, there are some downsides to this stunning feature. When we get past negative occurrences, our brains tend to remember only the positive aspects of the event. This can apply to a certain person, a journey, or even a scenario.

This can lead to a false perception of the event, and sometimes the good part of the event is overlooked. For example, if we had to travel through heavy traffic and stood in a long line for hours to see a view point for few minutes. The struggle was forgotten, and the view was highlighted. The same could be true of an abusive person, a friend, or workplace. We tend to only remember the good parts. 

We also have false memories. Where we believe something happened in a specific manner, although it did not actually happen that way. Certain recollections may be altered. In most circumstances, we will not cross-check our memories and accept what we have as a source of reality.

I want to caution you about your own memories and how you manage them in light of all these problems. You may be longing for a toxic relationship, a poisonous job, and much more.