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Rebound Catastrophe

"Don't fall for it; you are in a rebound state, and this will cause you serious issues in the future." These words of my colleague now feel like the words of a fortune teller.


Any human being is an easy target when they are at their lowest mental state. This could be due to numerous situations, including career, family, health, relationships, etc. 
When a person is at their weakest, they seek ways to avoid them for a temporary period. Most of these common pathways include smoking, drinking, etc., which could later become a deathly habit for them. This is also a time when humans could turn towards religion, as that could give them some hope. 
 
Any romantic relationship failure could leave us in our most vulnerable state. It can be compared to a state where you are well fed and suddenly you don't have any food. This time, there are high chances that you will develop feelings towards someone who is closest to you. If such a person is emotionally stable, they would try to make you understand step by step. 
But what if such a person is also in a rebound state or a past manipulative one?
At this stage, the person would start the romantic relationship, thinking it's all that's gold. And a time would come when they would realise that all that glitters is not gold. 
What a catastrophe! 
 
The best time to find a suitable person is when you are in your best mental state. when you have clarity on what is what. At this stage, you could see patterns and behaviours that might not be okay for you. In a vulnerable state, your own brain makes you blind to such patterns. Then your close circle, who wish to see you prosper, will point you in those directions. Instead of logically analysing them, you feel them as enemies. Once you realise these facts, you will blame yourself for being so naive. You trusted your brain and intellect so much. The brain could create false memories and hallucinations. 
But once it is realised, the only possible option is to correct the mistakes. 
 
Then, instead of trying to find a replacement or a rebound, work on yourself until you are in a state where you are no longer vulnerable. just like how an OS is patched. When all the known vulnerabilities are sorted and you are no longer desperate, you will reach a state of tranquilly. This state of mind helps you identify patterns to which you were blind during vulnerable times. not just for the other person but also for you. 
 
 
Remember the one golden rule.
 Nallavana irukkalam. Ana romba nallanava irukka koodath :p
 

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